—which may or may not be reputable? I’m caught off guard and can’t think on my feet, and my anxiety totally overrides my capacity for judgement.
Generally my policy is “why not give what is asked for if it won’t hurt me,” and allow the person to think I’m a chump if they ARE dishonest… I don’t know if it’s worse to feel guilty for being tightfisted or guilty for not being discerning enough.
- Holding down a job is not a measure of value.
- Attending school is not a measure of value.
- Whether or not you can “contribute” to society is not a measure of whether or not your life is valuable and worth preserving.
These are standards held up by a society values money and production over everything else. If you think life has any less value or worth because of an inability to do any of the above you re fucking wrong.
I really, really love to see this.
Particularly at the moment, when the words “active and contributing member of society” make me so anxious it brings on nausea.
"Anxiety is not fear, exactly, because fear is focused on something right in front of you, a real and objective danger. It is instead a kind of fear gone wild, a generalized sense of dread about something out there that seems menacing — but that in truth is not menacing, and may not even be out there. If you’re anxious, you find it difficult to talk yourself out of this foreboding; you become trapped in an endless loop of what-ifs."
— Understanding the Anxious Mind - NY Times (via polyvinyl)